We had our follow up appointment with our RE this past weekend. We’re in the middle of our fourth IUI cycle (first one was canceled) and thought it was a good idea to come in and talk about next steps in case this one doesn’t work. We’ve officially been diagnosed with unexplained infertility – a very frustrating situation – and our RE thinks the problem lies with either fertilization or implantation, both parts of the process that he is blind to when doing IUI treatment. Because of this, and the fact that IUI becomes less successful after 3-4 tries, he’s suggesting moving onto IVF as soon as we’re ready. I didn’t get the sense that he was pushing us into it, but that he 100% thinks this is the best course of action for us.
For now, the plan is to finish this IUI cycle and try one more. Then we’ll take a break in August because we have a vacation planned to Scotland and Ireland – YAY! When we get back we’ll get started on IVF, if insurance allows. We’re extremely blessed to have insurance coverage that pays for four rounds of IVF. We do have to work with them to get approved, and it is possible they will make us do all six IUIs before we can move forward.
I have very mixed feelings about IVF. On one hand, success seems much more likely (RE says up to 65% chance of success on the first round, vs. the 10-15% we’re looking at with IUI). On the other hand, it feels like we’re taking one step closer to exhausting all our options and it is scary to think we’ve progressed all the way to the end. There is so much more to consider with IVF, including how we feel about having our children created outside our bodies, the toll on my body, and the very real possibility of extra embryos. When we first started this process, I promised myself that even though I want nothing more than to be a mother, that I would be thoughtful and take the time to understand and reflect before making major decisions. It is also VERY important that hubby and I are on the same page. Sometimes I worry that he feels silenced in the process because so much of it has to do with my body.
So here’s to lots of reflecting for the rest of the summer, along with fingers and toes crossed for a successful IUI!