God vs. Science

Sistine Chapel - The Creation of Adam

Sistine Chapel – The Creation of Adam

When we first started seeing an infertility specialist, I could tell my mom was having trouble wrapping her mind around me going to such lengths to have a baby when she was able to have children “naturally” after a few years of trying. When she was having trouble conceiving, people suggested she see a specialist, but she wasn’t sure if she wanted kids if it wasn’t part of God’s plan for her life. Lucky for her (AND ME!), she went on to have me and my brother naturally, my brother after four years of trying with only had one ovary left. I love my mom, respect her decisions, but acknowledge her approach certainly wouldn’t work for everyone — myself included.

I don’t classify myself as religious (I grew up going to church but don’t go much anymore) but I do believe in God and would say I am spiritual. I’m also highly educated and surround myself with smart, open-minded people who make our society better every day through science and their own curiosity and hard work. Sometimes I find myself clinging desperately to the notion that there is some greater plan for me, and if I just believe that God is in control, everything will work out. Other days, I firmly put my trust in science and am satisfied knowing that I’ve taken the necessary steps to create the family that my husband and I so much desire.

After driving myself crazy trying to understand our infertility from these different perspectives, I realized that I don’t have to choose one or the other. I can choose to believe in the power of science and the comfort of faith — they aren’t mutually exclusive. I can look into the eyes of a child and see God’s work, and also see the splendor of science — tiny cells that grow into a miracle. I believe my faith guides my decisions and God never gives me more than I can handle. I believe that science and medical intervention are part of the path to grow my family. And I believe that my faith in God and my trust in science will only deepen from this experience.

As a fellow blogger recently pointed out, it is refreshing to be a part of a community where everyone respects each other’s beliefs. Thank you to everyone who has prayed, shared medical advice, or sent best wishes, positive vibes, and kind words to help us along on our journey!


8 thoughts on “God vs. Science

  1. I have had alot of negative feed back from my family in the same aspect. And I know that it can get quiet frustrating at times especially because they “think” they know. Lol.

  2. I, too, feel similarly. I’m spiritual but haven’t found a comfortable place for myself within organized religion and/or the church. Still, to me, science IS God — or whatever you want to call this “higher power.” Science creates; science innovates; science seeks truth; science provides aid; science saves lives. To distinguish between what people perceive as “God” in the traditional sense and the miracles that science renders seems impossible. They are one and the same. Blessings both. I know you and I hoped and dreamed (and maybe prayed) to conceive a child through “God’s miracle,” but maybe this opportunity we’ve been provided IS he miracle!!!
    Hugs!!! (And thanks for sharing these musings! I go in for retrieval first thing in the morning, so I’ve been philosophizing about these concepts and the creation of life all day). 🙂

    • Love this! Thanks so much for sharing, it is a great perspective that really makes sense to me. How did your retrieval go? Do you have a blog that I can follow? I can’t seem to find it through your profile. Hope all is going well with your cycle!! 🙂

      • I’m not writing a blog, but instead journaling on an online support group for fellow IF girls (DailyStrength.org). My profile name is “thewaitinggame.” Today is my ET, and I’m trying my best to employ the relaxation techniques I’ve been using during the Circle+Bloom series. Still, it’s a bit nerve-wracking! I’m sending you positive thoughts for your beta tomorrow, but it seems like you may already KNOW the outcome of this journey for you! I hope it’s all confirmed tomorrow. 🙂

  3. I completely agree. I am struggling with how much to tell people in my everyday life now that we’re knee deep in IVF, and am leaning towards very little. I was okay with telling people we were going to try IVF, but now that I know how many eggs fertilized and how they’re dividing, I don’t want to share these intimate details with anyone other than my husband. Nobody has been judgemental or made off hand remarks about it to my face, but all the sudden after retrieval, I feel that I need to protect our future children’s privacy. Maybe it’s my momma bear instincts kicking in. I just don’t know how much information our family should or could handle or what they’ll think about it. We have a plan that we are very comfortable with, and we intend to use or donate every single embryo. But do they need to know how many and what we do with them all? The infertility blogging community is different, I want to share as much as possible right now in case it will help someone else going through or considering the same treatment options. But you’re right, this is a wonderful, respectful community as far as I’ve experienced.

    • Totally get it! Most people can wrap their heads around IVF, but I’ve found that the idea of frozen embryos is harder for some people. Depending on who I’m talking to, sometimes less detail is easier/better.

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